Involved with a Muslim Egyptian

Submitted by Cindy (Canada), May 2, 2013 at 15:46

Hi, I am involved with a younger Egyptian man, and I mean half my age! We have been chatting for almost a year now, met him online too, he has been more loving than any man I have ever met. He is filling out his application to come here to see me. He is sweet and kind, but I have seen frightening little things come through the cracks here and there.

I feel that even though he is in Egypt and I am in Canada, he owns me somehow. If I don't sit on the computer and talk to him all day long, he gets a little upset and wants to know where I was. I have been having second thoughts about this for weeks now. I am divorcing my husband of 29 years for him. My soon to be ex says once this guy is finished with me and he guarantees he will be, that he will hunt this man down and kill him. I have heard every lecture and felt like I didn't care what people thought.

But, as I sat and read your story, I sobbed. I sobbed like never before, because I am walking into the fire and I can't seem to stop myself. But your story has woken me up and I know now that I cannot do this with him. I just can't. My marriage to my ex was awful and I just regained my confidence from that, and now I feel that if I continue this relationship with Mohamed, that I will be in for an even harder hell than ever and I would kill myself this time around. I almost did a few times during my marriage to my mentally abusive ex husband.

If you could email me, I would really like that. What do I say to Mohamed to end it? I truly love him and this is going to hurt me so bad, but I need to do this, as I could not survive another hell with him. He may be a sweet man, with a sweet family, but I cannot take that risk, as it would kill me if is was not good. My family is begging me to please listen to them Should I call the embassy and tell them to please not approve his visa? Maybe I should do that today! thank you for saving me, as I sit here sobbing and realizing that I need to save myself before I am eaten alive. Thank you!

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