Turkish boyfriend

Submitted by Nellly (South Africa), Nov 29, 2016 at 08:28

Dear All,

I am currently being pursued by a Turkish guy. At first I was reluctant to get involved with him, but he has been very persuasive in convincing me to let him get to know me. He has declared how much he likes me and really wants a relationship with me.

Problem is, I am a Christian and he is Muslim and I have told him that our religious differences will eventually cause problems. He assures me it does not bother him that I am of a different faith, but I know that that is not true and if this gets serious he will expect me to convert to his religion, which is simply not an option. On top of those worries, he is in the military and I worry about getting involved with someone in such a risky career. He was shot a few months ago and has been put on 14 month leave.

Reading all these stories about Turkish men has not helped me get at ease with what to do. I am not completely foreign to how marriages and relationships are viewed in Turkey as I am from South Africa and the same views are prevalent here as well, but having said that I am extremely independent career driven and a a great supporter of the feminism movement.

I dont wanna stereotype this guy and assume the worst, but I kinda dont see how this will work at all.

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