Married an Arab in UAE, need advice

Submitted by American Sweetie (United States), Dec 30, 2016 at 21:15

I'm American, Christian, about 20 years older than my Arab husband but look about 12 years younger than I am. Very in shape, energetic and feminine. I have dated many younger guys so age is not usually an issue. My husband flew me to Dubai, I met his Mother, sisters, brother, stepfather. But not Aunts, uncles, cousins in Dubai or friends. We went to Jordan and were married (he is Jordanian) and I met his famiy in Jordan, some of them. The Jordanian family has kept in touch but I know that his Mother was not happy with this marriage because she does not want him to move from Dubai and I can't move there so she told him it was not necessary for him to leave, that she would find him a girl but he brought me there and married me anyway so even though she was nice, I'm sure she was not happy about it. HIs sisters were very nice WHILE I was there but have not kept in touch since I came back. It's been months and months. My husband messaged me constantly before I went there, not so much after I came back. And he does not want his other family to know he married me because he says they will make his life miserable for all these months that he is waiting because they will be mad that he is leaving.

At first I was mad at him but I soon saw this could be true, as my friends and familjy were anything but happy about it. I wish I had kept my mouth shut to be honest, lots of negative feedback. But, I am worried still that he might be in it for a green card. He says he wanted an older wife, does not want kids and really does not want to leave Dubai but knows if he wants to live with me he has to come to the US. He has expressed more than once that he really does not want to leave Dubai. We have had a few arguments about the green card because I bluntly told him I do not want to be used for a green card and he has said he does not even want it unless he has to have one so I dont know. He makes more money in Dubai than he can here. He is an engineer and he knows he can't use his degree here like he can there. I can't see the advantage of him coming here but still I have doubts.

Anyone from UAE who might be able to advise me on what his agenda might be in marrying me and moving here? Maybe Nnad could advise me?

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