Hi this is Cindy

Submitted by cindy Fisher (Canada), Nov 13, 2019 at 00:49

This is Cindy. Well it has been a few years since I have posted here. I did eventually give up my relationship with Mohammed. I ended up in a relationship with a Canadian man, and it started out okay, but it ended up not being so good as a few years went on. I began to feel depressed and I questioned whether or not I would ever find someone who truly was loving to me. I began to watch 90 Day Fiance, and boy it brought back memories of a time in my life when I was involved with my Muslim man. Thankfully, I was able to end the relationship.There were times when my Muslim ex boyfriend tried to email me to ask how I have been doing, and if I still wanted to one day meet up with him and see where things go. And after being in a not so good relationship with a Canadian guy, I have been tempted from time to time to just email back Mohammed and see how he is doing. He was so loving and romantic to me at the time we were talking online, and it was like a fantasy for me. I was able to feel loved, and somehow he had a way of making me feel beautiful. But no matter how difficult things can get for me here in Canada, I must remember that it was never in my best interest to ever get back to chatting with Mohammed. Sometimes life can be hard for us all, but we must not make it worse by going backwards. Yes, it is nice to be told we are a beautiful Queen by our Muslim boyfriend.. But, it is just a fantasy. Because reality sets in and we would be in for a worse life than we could ever imagine. Unless you are committed to the Muslim religion and can educate yourself and accept it, then my advice is to never ever think that things will be better or that the grass would be greener on the other side. Fantasy and reality are two totally different things. We come from two different worlds. They were born into the Muslim life and that is all they know. And we are born into our lives in another country and used to that life there. And it really is tough on BOTH when they enter into a love relationship together. It is not that either person is wrong at all. Its just that the lifestyles are just too different and there are strong beliefs on both sides as to what they think life should be like. Now, I have also known relationships between a Muslim and North American couple that do end up working out. But, for the most part, it is usually difficult for both to adjust to each other. At the end of the day, we must realize that life is so precious and so short, and that there are many types of people in this world, with different beliefs in what life should be like. Make your choices wisely. Get to know each other thoroughly. And if red flags pop up. please PLEASE dont ignore them because you are so infatuated with that handsome man from a Middle Eastern country. Keep it a fantasy if it makes you feel special inside. But remember, that eventually you will want to meet. And that is when the reality of life sets in. That is when you must make a very important decision. Either give up your life as you know it and whisk yourself away to be with your handsome guy. But remember, there is your family who you just left behind, and maybe much more than that as time goes on. Please remember you are loved by your family and they want the best for you. But, they want to be able to share that happiness with you. And if you make the wrong decision, you may look back at your life, and your memories of your family will be just that. A memory. While you wonder where things went terribly wrong. Ask yourself, is it worth losing everything for. Think about never seeing your family ever again. And it may end up being a bad decision after all.There is a slim chance that it may turn out good, but I think the amount of stories on this forum prove that it usually does not work out too well. I just ask that God Bless everybody, no matter where you may be from. For we are all children of God. And He is expecting us to make the right decision to be happy. Unless you are ready to embrace a new religion and give up your freedom as you know it, ask yourself is this handsome man you dont really know going to be worth it. Thats all I ask. Until then, God be with you. I love everyone that I meet. And I care about people, no matter where they are from Unfortunately, it almost cost me life as I know it. Hugs from your friend, Cindy.

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