How will she know if a moroccan man is genuine

Submitted by Tina (United States), Dec 25, 2019 at 06:44

First of all you never said where you visited him, was that in his Country or where? and another thing to consider, why would a 28 year old be interested in a 41 year old, those are different decades all together, a guy that young would usually not have anything in common with a 41 year old,you just have to be logical. Im just going to be bladently honest with you, I met a Moroccan man, living in the United States, once we went out, I was instantly attracted to him, not just because he was tall dark and hanesome, but it definently played a significant part, he was a sweet, kind and gentile man, and we had a lot in common, we had the same values, and we both had good morals, I definently felt I had hit the jackpot, he was everything, I had ever dreamed of and more. I was a few years older than him to but, he was not in his twenties, we were close to the same decade, that should make a difference. to make a long story short, once we started dating, we were inseperable, we married a couple of months later, I was in heaven I thought I had found my Prince, he even called me his Princess, we had a lot of fun together, we were like 2 kids in love, he made me feel young again, and he felt the same way. he had a visa but he wasn't a U.S. Citizen, he told me before we married that he wanted to become a U.S. Citizen, so I was aware of that, he got his citizenship and all was good, we had an off the chart chemistry in bed, it was amazing, Ive never been with anyone like him, I truly was in love and he seemed to be too. we did have a difference of opinion sometimes when it came to money, he did not want to open up a joint bank account with me, and that bothered me, but I tried to overlook it, he was tight when it came to money, I lost my job a year after We had been married, and I did receive unemployment for a couple of years, by that time we had been married 3 years. I has been helping him pay the bills, but when the unemployment ran out, I did not seriously look for a job, because in the 3 years that I had helped him pay the bills, we did not have any money saved together, and I truly did not know what he did with the remainder of his pay check, he rarely spent any money on me, and when he did it was usually for food, then he started complaining about having to pay all of the bills, well we just lived in a one bedroom apartment, we were not buying a house, and had not put that in the equasion, and I really started resenting the fact that we did not have any savings together, or any money together, so I did not work, I let him pay the bills, well he resented that, and he told me he was tired of paying all the bills and never having any extra money, but yet he had nothing to show for those years I helped him pay the bills, he made more money than me, so after he paid his share of the bills, he should have had some money saved, and he probably did, but I never saw it. when we had been married 5 years, which is the amount of time you have to remain married, in order to keep your citizenship, at that point, he told me his mother had cancer and he wanted to go see her, I got mixed feelings about him leaving, I had a feeling, he may never come back. and after a couple of days, he called me and said he wasn't coming back, I was very upset, I asked him why, and he just said you know why, you wouldn't help me pay the bills, I was devastated, I went into a full depression, my life to this day has never been the same, and he will have been gone, almost 5 years in February, I still grieve him, I wonder if his intensions all along were too just get a citizenship, he always said I was wrong about that at the same time, it just happened that he left me right at the 5 year mark, a part of me doesn't want to believe its true, because we did have a good relationship together, aside from the money issues, I believed he always loved me, but then how do you leave someone you truly love, and in the back of my mind, I cant help but wonder why he wouldn't want to have a joint account with me, because me and my first husband always had a joint account, and he had no reservations at all about having one, and I didn't even have to pay half of the bills. It is very heart wrenching to be in a situation like this, so I felt I must warn you, and honestly I would definently not trust your situation, because of the difference in age mainly because he is 2 decades behind you, that really makes a difference maturity wise, and the fact that he doesn't work, and you have given him money, I helped pay our bills, but I never payed for him to get a citizenship, that was my one way in my head of insuring myself that I was not being used just for him to get into the country, but as it turned out he still left me, and has never felt any remorse for it, infact he came back to the United States 2 years later, and if I had not seen him on facebook under his brothers friend zone, I would not even know he was back here, and he was using a fake name also, when I seeked him out and asked him why he used the fake name, he just said it was just a nick name, a first and last name, he claimed they were both nick names, that still haunts me also, I still love him no matter what he did to me, I cant seem to free myself of him, we were very intimate, and I believe that keeps me connected to him, and he has also teased me since I found him, but he never came through with anything, so I am still daunted by the whole marriage, and I will probably never have closure, and I still love him and yearn for him, there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about him, and I still cry over him, in fact I often wonder if I will ever be free of his spell, save yourself a lot of heartache, don't go there, you even have more red flags than I had, most definently.

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