Online Egyptian man wants me to find him a Western wife

Submitted by Laine (United States), Aug 10, 2020 at 10:34

Hi,
I found this forum by chance, and boy I am glad I did. I have been speaking to an Egyptian man now off and on for a few years. He is 30 years younger than me, just a boy really. He is 30. Two years ago he lured me into chats via messenger on Facebook. (We met in a chat room). He began telling me about this Egyptian girl that broke his heart. Gradually, the conversation took on sexual overtones. He told me he masturbated a lot, though he was actually a virgin. He kept telling me how this Egyptian girl broke his heart, and how he really wanted a Western wife. Then he asked me to help him find one. I was a bit taken aback at his request. After many months I blocked him on messenger only. He asked me on Facebook, why did you block me? I ignored him. A few weeks ago I unblocked him on messenger after not speaking to him for 18months.. I'm not really sure why. I guess I just wanted to see how he was doing. Well, not much had changed. He was still pining for this girl, still looking for a Western wife. He is desperate to leave his country. He told me he and his family are well to do, but he has sent me many pictures of himself and the backgrounds all look like a dirty place. He sent me one of him smoking a water pipe that was supposed to be his bedroom. The walls looked like cheap plaster with some Arabic writing on the walls. It looked like his 'bed' was a wooden mat. Also, some of the things he says do not make sense. He has sent me multiple pictures of him smoking, plus we have spoken on the phone and he was smoking then, yet he tells me he only smokes twice a year. He also tells me he is an assistant professor at a college, yet he never seems to work. He then told me that he only works 8 hours a week, that he is a lazy guy. He sent me a picture of car and told me it was his, however, he has only had it 5 months. so how did he get back and forth to work? Very telling was one time we were on the phone and a female, that he later identified as his sister, came to ask him to eat. He was REALLY mean to her. Of course I couldn't understand what he said to her, but the tone was nasty. And since reconnecting a few weeks ago, our relationship has become sexual in chats. He has told me he is a sex addict, and also watches porn non stop. We discuss his 'problem' a lot. It always turns into sex talk. I mean, I am almost 60!! I am a good 60, as I don't look my age, and much of the sex talk revolves around 'Hot blondes". Lately he has sent me some pornographic pictures over messenger.(not of himself) I don't know. I have been in sexual relationships for just sex, so I am sort of used to this behaviour. I will be honest, he has me hook line and sinker. I tried to block him on Facebook and Instagram both, but he created another Facebook account and contacted me that way. He begged me not to block him. He says he can only talk to me about his 'problem". I mean, this guy, he is soooo good looking, so handsome and sexy. His voice is sexy, and he has even had a climax over the phone with me, which freaked me out totally! It offended me, so our other conversations on the phone have not been that. He is very attentive to me. I told him I cannot marry him, as I am too old. I cannot bring him over here, so he has tasked me with finding him a wife. I sent him several dating site links for international people. I have given him the names of a couple coworkers that might friend him. (they did not). Foolishly, I offered to pay for a membership to eHarmony for him so he could find a wife. He was not interested in that either. He told me to 'Go to work and find me a wife." I told him, I cannot do that, it isn't that easy. And he gets offended really easy if I don't answer him right away on messenger. I have been at my wits end wondering just what he wants, and what I am supposed to do. I am emotionally involved with him by now. Last night he told me he loved me. I wasn't sure what to say so I just told him I loved him back, as a 'friend'. He even told me that females there have their clitoris cut. I was so shocked!! I mean, obviously, they do not think much of women there. I mean, does he not respect me for talking 'sex talk' with him? I'm not sure what to do. I would really miss him if I just blocked him. Does anyone have any advice.

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