Reply to Dutch Kafir in reponse 2 his message

Submitted by ahmed (United Arab Emirates), Jul 21, 2009 at 05:13

Kudos! 2 u man. First let me let u know why i am glad. In fact by calling urself Kafir i truly uphold your value of being true and honest to yourself. The reason being that by calling Kafir u have uprightly spoken the truth and feel no fear and shame in calling urself Kafir ( which when translated means essentially a "non muslim"). That in fact is a very essential quality becoz a few million non muslims quiet feel ashamed. Why feel ashamed to be called what in fact u really are. Right? Just likle u cannnot or call or consider an human being to be the same as that as an alien or vice versa.

Many Hindus in present day India feel it is a kind of a very rash or disturbing word. Pls mind the contextual word like "rash or disturbing" that i am using here is of very mild nature coz i feeel we need to understand each other as humans and not degrade one another over our beliefs. I,truly also feel being a part of good human protocols and even Brother Pipes does take the time to understand that a common cause that we are here is promotion of equality, freedom and justice for all.

Now, coming to the point that u have earlier stated in your letter there is no prescribed bride prize nor any obligation for men to stay married.The third point is on the utter of the word talaq and its implications and how we try to go scot free. So let me clear them one by one.

Regarding your first point let me clear the air for you in this matter. The bride prize is nothing more that a gift from a man to his wife. It is the act of giving that is intended to promote love and mercy between them and that the would be husband would take responsibilty of her needs as do many women now a days llok for men who can support them and make their lifes a source of comfort and in return she takes charge of his household. Unfortunately, the act persists vice versa in countries like India where a women is obliged to give to the man. More unfortunately, it exists even in muslim societies in India the reason being almost 90% of the indian muslim population were hindus who converted to Islam due to its teachings. But most of them have inculcated some hindu beliefs into their lifestyle as in terms of cultural aspect, and some others do not know its true principles where a man is supposed to shower gifts to his bride and yet others find it as a means of satisfying their monetary fulfillment which is nothing but completely wrong in the context of Islam.

Your other point states, men are not obliged to stay married but the fact of the matter is marrying completes one half of the religion in Islam. You are wrong when you state such a point and need to do more research. Pls do not judge by peoples actions. There are a billion plus people and u cant hold the religion responsible for their actions. Marrying helps inculcate a person realize his reponsibilities towards socially, economically and inhererent in the human nature. Therefore, to marry is very important in Islam and if he is not able due to financial compulsions which may or may not belinked to other factors like waiting for bro or sis to get married, or studing abroad the other best option for the person is to fast during those days. And yes, it does not promote the idea of priesthood or nun because as per Islam God has already stated in the Quran that "verily man is made weak" and it is not unusual for him or her to succumb to their desires but it becomes very important for man and woman to marry and dispose their social responsibilities and promote new generation who will also enjoin good and pray for forgivness of their parents.

Regarding, your third point, a muslim can qut marriage by repeating talaaq three times. In fact it is not so and the nature of the timing when it is said has to be looked upon . For instance, talaq is considered once in just one time (irrespective he says one time or 3 times) becoz God Almighty, gives them a second chance to reconcile. Similarly, for the second time. But after it has been said the third time their is no chance becoz marriage is a sacred act instructed by God and it needs to be honored. it is either one may be or may not be compatible with their partner. Verily! the most hated act in the eyes of God is Divorce (Quran). But do you know why it is stated as the most hated act. Becoz it indeed shakes the foot of the The Throne Of God. And that is because he created men and women as partners so as to enjoin in comfort with each other, worship God, Forbid evil and do not hate one another. Divorce is a form of hate. We can have a huge debate on that too weather divorce is a form of hate or not. That will take time and lets do it some other time coz i tried to clear the most basic misconceptions that u have. And creating hate amongst one another and envy is the act of Satan and not us humans. Also to make a last point clear the children that one has from his divorced wife it becomes his responsibility to take care of their maintenance as well as that of the wife (until she gets remarried). It needs a little bit of human bonding to understand the plight of the former wife and some emotions that make u realize u have some social responsibilty as a human too.

Hope i have answered ur doubts and cleared the confusion

Brother Ahmed

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