Libyan, pardon me..

Submitted by Another one (Egypt), Mar 1, 2006 at 19:50

dear Anonymous,sorry for intruding and replying on behalf of you like this,but i felt that a correction need to be made here !

Brother,women aren't forced to live against their will,and Allah permissions shouldn't be used if the causes were missing . If that wife can't bear her husband's marriage to another one since she provides him with all his needs "sexual pleasure,children,peace of mind,supporting at crisis,love and devotion ..etc" then she has the right to ask for divorce,and Nobody can wrong her..
i'm not making that up, or relying on some social law as a proof ! .I'm simply telling you what the prophet said about that situtaion..

As prophet Muhammad PBUH says "" The most perfect in faith amongst believers is he who is best in manner and kindest to his wife."

Indeed Allâh has heard the statement of her (Khaulah bint Tha'labah) that disputes with you (O
Muhammad ) concerning her husband (Aus bin As­Sâmit), and complains to Allâh. And Allâh
hears the argument between you both. Verily, Allâh is All-Hearer, All-Seer. (Al-Mujadilah 58:1)
Reasons for sending that verse,On the authority of Aishah, who said :i heard
Khaulah bint Tha'labah telling the prophet that she was mistreated by her husband Aus bin As­
Sâmit ,and sherequested a divorce, she was denied several times because the Prophet did not
think the request was appropriate, and that it would be better for her to work out her differences
with her husband. Finally, the verse came to him that said "We have heard the argument of the
woman who came to you" -- and proceeded to lay down divorce laws for women. In this
instance, the Prophet was corrected by the Scriptural revelation.

"The woman who cannot bear to live with her husband has the right to free herself from the
marriage bond by returning to her husband the mahr (required marriage gift) and gifts he has
given her, or more or less than that according to their mutual agreement. It is, however,
preferable that he should not ask for more than he has given her. Allah Almighty says: "...And if
you (the judges) fear that the two may not be able to keep to the limits ordained by Allah, there is no blame on either of them if she redeems herself (from the marriage tie by returning all or part of the mahr)..." (Al-Baqarah: 229)

another situation,The wife of Thabit ibn Qays came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I do not reproach Thabit ibn Qays in respect of character and religion, but I do not want to be guilty of showing anger to him." (Her meaning was that although Thabit was a good man, she was unable to get along with him and thus might not be able to show him the respect due to a husband.) The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) asked her about what she had received from him. She replied, "A garden." He asked, "Will you give him back his garden?" "Yes," she said. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) then told Thabit, "Accept the garden and make one declaration of divorce." (Reported by al-Bukhari and an-Nasa'i)

[But do not retain them in order to harm or wrong them.] (Al-Baqarah 2:231)
[Do not harass them so as to make life intolerable for them.] (At-Talaq 65:6)
[A mother should not be made to suffer because of her child, nor should a father because of his
child. The same duties devolve upon the father's heir.] (Al-Baqarah 2:233)

In Islam, the relationship between men and women is to compliment each other and not to
compete against one another. In conclusion; the following rights have been given to the Muslim
women, in the Qur'an some 1400 years ago, without any changes :

1. Spiritual equality.
2. Not, responsible for Adam's sin.
3. Right to choose husband.
4. Right to seek divorce.
5. Right to inheritance.
6. Exclusive ownership of personal gains and acquired wealth.
7. Right to education (to any level).
8. Right to seek employment.
9. Right to keep maiden name.

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