About arranged marriages: what Western women must know

Submitted by A very concerned reader, Feb 3, 2021 at 22:30

Thanks to poster Fatou who finally talked about her culture/religion and gave us some pieces to comment on here, I would like to warn non Muslim women who are involved with Muslim men about the arranged marriages. Specially, among Pakistani and Indian Muslims, arranged marriages -sometimes from a very early age- is a common practice and a very well established tradition. As poster Fatou has mentioned, parents look for the financial wellbeing of their daughters... meaning that the Muslim men need to have a good amount of money and a nice position to be able to provide for them to be catered as queens, as poster Fatou lives. Do your maths and understand how a great number of Muslim men gain their wealth and escalate in their social position when it comes to making it in the West.

Also, it's not rare that they marry their first cousins.

This is the way they understand marriage. There's no love. They say that love grows after marriage, not before, and it's not what leads a couple to get married. It's what it is: an arrangement between two families based, mostly on the level of wealth of the bride's family and also, her level of religion:

"A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character), so marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper", Al-Bukhari and Muslim.

So, beware of the Muslim men that you meet in Western countries and are settled as temporary residents. The great majority of them are already married or engaged since early age. If you're not Muslim by birth, most families will reject you. And also, remember in ALL spheres, that blood is thicker than water. Think wisely.

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