What kind of magic are these MENA men using

Submitted by Didi (Turkey), Nov 20, 2021 at 14:26

I haven't been on in awhile. Alot of changes in my life. I split from my Moroccan husband about a year ago...we had a mandatory 1 year separation because he refused the divorce. So, we both moved on to date other people. I tried to keep my new guy hidden to avoid trouble. He assumed he was European and didn't seem to care.

When he found out he was Algerian also, he lost it and started stalking me and being dangerous. The guy and I agreed to part ways... which hurt, but it ended up being good because he is by nature a liar. ((He is now marrying someone for residency in another city, but says once he has residency and my divorce is finalized, he wants us to be together and have a baby because he loves me. I don't want that, nor do I believe it.))

So, my ex calmed down but is constantly playing games about signing the divorce papers. He wants to keep me and the baby hostage. He says he'll sign if I go to Morocco and live with his family. Otherwise he will not sign and keep delaying it.

The thing that keeps me reluctant I don't trust any of his family at this point. To make things worse, I have been talking with another Moroccan man who is interested and says to go so I get the divorce, then he'll send his family to come get me and the baby to help us leave Morocco. He wants to pursue a relationship/marriage, but morally can't until everything is done because he's ready for a baby. I told him I can't think of that now. He says he'll wait and that he's going to protect me and baby.

I'm so confused and don't know what to do. And yes, I've already contacted attorneys in my home state and was told they don't have jurisdiction due to judge order on custody of our baby. My attorney here advised to try to reach an amicable agreement because it could take up to 5 years if he won't agree. And he can go to Morocco anytime and re-marry.. yet I'm stuck for as long as he wants to play games.

Anybody have experience or advice on speeding up divorce or custodial rights issues if I were to just leave Europe with my baby? And why am I even considering another relationship with a MENA man. It's like they put you under a spell!

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