Is he married?

Submitted by Tracey (United Kingdom), May 4, 2021 at 08:53

Hello everyone
I'm after some advice - I have been talking to a Muslim man from south side of Turkey for the last 10months. We haven't physically met because of the pandemic, over the time we have been talking we have become very close and thinking about a long term future together.
A couple of things don't sit right with me so I'm after some advice please. He was married and still is legally married to a British woman and they have a child together they have been separated for nearly 3 years now. He now lives back in his home town - he was asked to marry a Kurdish woman but he refused as he hadn't long split from his wife and his plan is to return to U.K.
We speak everyday from day one and we video call every night all night until his morning, his family know all about me and I have spoke to two of his sisters via video call who have been very friendly. He is financially secure and they live a very comfortable life so I know he isn't after money. He has told his family we are planning a future and a family together and they are looking forward to meet me and he has his family support on the choice he has made to be with me.
He has two sisters who aren't married and don't want to be, there has been a couple of occasions his sister he came into his room when we have been on a call. Everyday he is taking his sisters out shopping etc watch TV with his sister - she is mentioned a lot.
I'm aware they don't really have bedrooms like we do - he sleeps on the floor every night alone talking to me ... it's been a couple times now which doesn't sit right with me .. his one sister sleeps in the same room has him on the sofa the other side of the room, when I questioned him 'why' he said she probably has had a fall out with my other sister and has decided to sleep on sofa in here .. this has happened a couple times now. He lives in the family home as his plan not to settle there .. so his reply was it's not my home it's there's so I can't tell her to sleep somewhere else. I'm shocked how certain strictness they have that it's acceptable for two grown siblings to share same room or could it be his wife???
I have asked him previously has he a Kurdish wife and he explained he was asked but he refused which knowing his full story I did believe what he told me.
But again the sister sleeps in the same room is very strange to me ... could someone confirm my doubts or is it acceptable in there culture that it is ok for them to sleep in same room?
Am I overthinking things?? xx

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