A mix of fear, convenience, jealousy and pride: women's role in Islam

Submitted by A very concerned reader (Ukraine), Feb 18, 2021 at 04:44

Hi there, Jessica,

Well, Muslim women have been raised that way. So they accept whatever their religion commands. Other thing is if they can be happy with the things that pose a threaten to them and strick them hardly, like the polygamy issue. In a minor level will sit the things related to their freedom. But we have as the most accurate proof that when migrating to our countries, the large majority of them don't want to change/adjust to their host countries customs. Although deep down they envy our freedom, they tend to not recognise it openly. They can't! And this is because the family boundaries are very stringent so no one dares to pose any doubt about their role in society. Their ruled by fear, and this comes from their husbands if married, or their fathers, if not. And of course, the greatest fear: the fear of Allah. Many of them, when they come here, realise that they could have a better life with better prospects. But out of fear, they keep obeying their fathers/husbands. Others really don't have any interest in studying and just want to be housewives while demand to their husbands to earn large sums of money. It's what they like from here! Remember their marriages are not for love but for business. Many even become more radical on their ideas trying to justify things which can't fit in the West, and make a lot of noise defending their right to wear not only hijab but niqab, for instance.

According to Islam, men are the providers of the family so the women shouldn't work. It's not exactly forbidden, but not encouraged for the sake of the family. Having kids, raise them and doing the home chores is what is expected from them. Besides, if men can't provide for them, it's like they're less "men". Please, look for these ayahs related to women'sposition in Islam and check this out (there are many more!):

If a woman is not completely submissive to her husband she will enter straigh away to hell. "Allah has set forth for the unbelievers the parable of the wives of Noah and Lot. They were wedded to two of Our righteous servants, but each acted treacherously with her husband, and their husbands could be of no avail to them against Allah. The two of them were told: "Enter the Fire with all the others who enter it"." Surah At-Tahrim, 66:10

Women are "tilth" for their husbands (whenever the men want to "enjoy" the women who are reduced to objects, and there's no words about the sex being consensual) Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:223

"Men are in charge of women", because of course, women are dumb, impaired or minors who could not take decisions by themselves, work or care of themselves! They must be obedient to their husbands, otherwise they can be admonished (verbally abused), relinquish from the bed (psychologically abused) and last but not least, beaten (physically abused), Surah An-Nisa, 4:34

Imagine, if you've been raised all scared by the heat of hell, it's more than likely that you do all that the men in your life tell you to do. Moreover, you feel good because your God has stated like this. And Allah knows best and is the best Planner, as they say...

But in truth, no woman can be happy with polygamy. And they live with that yoke on their necks per life because they know it can happen to them at anytime. All the money and the jewels that they may have can't take this idea away of their minds. Because indeed, polygamy is heartbreaking.

Dr Pipes replied Ajda with an article of his authory published on this same website explaining what Islamism means to him. Well, they definitely showed that they don't read any article of this website except this forum, as they believed he was Muslim. Go figure their level of fear, Jessica...

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