Mental Torment

Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Oct 3, 2021 at 18:18

I can tell by your comments that you are in cognitive dissonance. You know the truth but you, for some reason, perhaps a vulnerability, feel the need to keep corresponding with a foreigner 20 years younger.

You need to ask some tough questions like:

What is he going to bring to a possible relationship?
What will you do when you get older?
How will you feel when he looks at younger women? (20 yrs younger, remember)?

Doesn't matter what he wants from you. What matters is what you need and what he can offer. Right now you are only getting words. You have been talking for 2 years. Why waste that energy on a kid far away when you could give you affection to a deserving local person.

Time is something you cannot buy back. Once it is spent.. that is it.

From my personal experience, after cutting off the immigration process, my rat sends me pictures of the receipts and wants to pay me back $50 a month but I had to skype him. I did not respond to that. But what I realized from that is this: ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD WILL NOT BUY ME BACK 2 YEARS I WASTED OF MY LIFE. It hurt my heart yes. I recovered thankfully however I do regret that I casted my pearls before swine.

All is forgiven here. I am not trying to be hard on you. You came here for help and we all wish to help you. You need to be strong and disappear from this person. Do yourself a favor. Go no contact and do not search or look at anything from him. You are going to have to do this yourself. We can tell you over and over again but we can't take any action to stop this. This is your decision and yours alone. Not even he is able to decide.

Do what is best for you.

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