online turkish boyfriend

Submitted by askim (Philippines), Jun 24, 2007 at 12:47

hi! i also met my turkish boyfriend online, and i was surprised how serious his intentions are with me. Being a girl, i'm afraid to stay in Turkey without knowing anyone. He decided to come here and stay with me first then every summer go back to Turkey for vacation. We cant even get married still, as im still working out the divorce papers here.

It's like a trial of living together and i like it better that way. I dont want to jump in another marraige and end up in another divorce. I like this set-up because i am in my own country and i realized how much he's willing to adjust and give up for me. I am in no way from UK or USA so i doubt it is visa purpose. I live in south east asia, and my country still developing. He already told his parents about our plans to be together 2 months from now, and it was positive. I think it depends on how your muslim man was brought up. I am from a catholic country and he's not asking me to convert to islam. I am free to follow my faith.

We've been together for 9 months now and talk online always and mobile and sms. Online relationships are never easy , but we both agreed we would never know unless we try. As they say its better to have experienced love and failed than to have never experienced at all. I am looking forward to everything , but at the same time i admit to him i'm scared. We have planned mostly how we'll live our life, like every summer visit his parents in turkey and after 5 years go back to turkey. But in the meantime, i am happy to adjust here at my own pace in my own time, in my own country.

Lastly, i think it all boils down if both partners have same outlook iand principles in life regardless of culture, religion. We both agree that there is no such thing as perfect marriage to begin with, so i think its useless blaming one another for mistakes or cultural or religous difference, rather be optimistic and both should work hard to make the most of everyday a loving one for each other. End of the day, it's still our choice, the life we are living now, is the life we choose. And we can choose to be happy .

One thing i realized bout my past is that marriage is never a guarantee, I married someone i've known for 7 years, my first boyfriend and my neighbor , the person my family wanted me to marry and still ended up in separation. A good amount of understanding, trust, respect is needed in every relationship, We are marrying the person, not his religion. But his habits ,the way he was raised, will never change , that we must compromise on and learn accept early on before committing to any relationship regardless if he is muslim or not.

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