Anyone have thoughts on this...reply to Michelle

Submitted by Me (United States), Jul 19, 2007 at 16:37

I have been talking to a Moroccan man for almost three months now on messenger, webcam and on the phone. The webcam and phone has brought us so much closer together, we have wonderful conversations every night for about two hours. He says he is in love with me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He is 35 and I'm 47. When I'm talking to him I feel like I'm on top of the world, he is so polite, respectful, charming, and handsome. He has never asked me for money, he says he wants to come here on his own financially, he's said that since the beginning.

I did offer last week to "maybe" be able to help him a little bit in a couple of months, and then he said he would only agree to that so he could get here sooner. But then he asked if I could send $300 first, then $400, that would help with the visa. He wanted me to send it as soon as I could, because he wants to come here so badly. I told him I didn't have it right now, and he said thats' ok, whenever I can, and when I feel comfortable. He has never asked me for anything else. And he hasn't brought it up since.

I guess my opinion is that I can feel so close to him like all of this is so real, but I really don't know what's in his heart. He could just be a charmer, wanting to come over here to get citizenship or a green card, and split. We have talked about this and he assures me that's not the case, but there's still no way to know. He has recently started calling me "his wife". I didn't think too much about it, because we are always talking about getting married. But he could be doing it to just gain my trust.

Anyway, I am basically in a state of confusion, not knowing what to believe. When I come on these sites, there is so much bashing that it's hard to not let it give you doubts about your situation. There are so many American men around, but this guy has stolen my heart. I just need to decide if I want to take the risk and have a wonderful life with him, or be left as soon as he has his card. Any thoughts?

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