No chances given

Submitted by hurting (United States), Jul 21, 2007 at 15:42

I met a man from Morocco on line who was living here in the states three months ago. We met in person and started seeing each other about once a week as we lived in separate towns, same state. About a month ago, he went back to see his family and we kept in touch through email.

I received an email stating how he saw a young woman who reminded him so much of myself and how he could not take his eyes off her while thinking and remembering me. Then came the blow. About a week later, he emailed, apologized for taking so long to get back to me and said his parents and elders were asking how long he was going to stay not married and he told them about me back here in the states.

Well, as you probably already guessed, I am neither Muslim nor Moroccan. He says they told him they want him to have a Moroccan wife so that they could communicate better. He replied this to me with, as he says, with tears in his eyes as he really, really liked me and that it was breaking his heart to have to tell me this. He said with a broken heart that he wished me all the best and hoped that we could remain friends. He said he hoped that I would not hate him (which I could never do).

It has only been a few days, but just thinking about him or hearing a song on the radio that we both liked brings tears to my eyes. It hurts that he was forced to choose and not free to make his own decisions. I guess that is what is hardest about it. I would really appreciate any thoughts and/or comments on this from anyone. Please take care and may your life's dreams come true.

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