in response to Michelle

Submitted by anonymous (United States), Jul 23, 2007 at 23:27

We do talk every night for a couple of hours, on messenger, with webcam and sometimes mic. I call him maybe twice a week, but the calls are very short, just a few minutes. He asked for my number a while back, but I told him I have international calling and it's not too expensive, so I can call him.

He says he can come on a tourist visa, but a few people are saying it's not possible, and he needs an invitation, but he has never mentioned that. He says he knows all about the laws, immigration, etc. I don't want to keep questioning him, but I just want to have a little knowledge and know what he's doing, or planning.

He said from the beginning he didn't want any financial help, he could do it all on his own. He says he has a great job, a couple of them. But in the "heat of the moment" I offered to "maybe help a little in a couple of months", I couldn't promise anything, and I couldn't do it now. Well he jumped on it and wanted me to send $300 next week, and then $400 two weeks from then (or something like that), and I told him I couldn't do it. He kept talking about it, and then said he wanted me to do it when I was able, and I felt comfortable, and he hasn't brought it up since. Maybe he is being sincere, I don't know.

There haven't been any "red flags" per say, I just notice little things. When he is giving me kisses, blowing kisses, putting his fists across his chest like he's hugging me and giving kisses at the same time, and putting his hand on his chest and giving kisses...it's all so romantic and charming and I love it, but sometimes I wonder if he's done it many times before. He just seems so "good at it" or "skilled"...lol maybe they are just full of charm....

His name is Mohamed but he says he doesn't practice Islam. We've had this conversation about three times now. I don't have a problem if he does, but if he does, I just want him to be honest with me. In the last conversation he said his parents practice Islam, but he doesn't. I don't know if it's the truth, but I also don't know what the point would be in not being honest about it, I'll find out eventually, right?

The other night we were talking and he was responding really slowly. He's usually right there, and if I respond slowly he asks why. I felt like maybe he was talking to someone else. I wanted to see him on cam but he said he was fixing it. I know he's had some problems with it. Anyway, it was just different, and then he said brb, and he was gone for a few minutes, came back and said he had to restart his computer, but yahoo never signed him out, so I don't think he did any restarting...then he said we could talk with cam in five minutes. By that time, it was almost time for him to go. So I don't know, just feelings, nothing concrete, I feel like he is sincere almost all of the time. The thing is, he is very charming and nice looking I think, if he wanted to get over here I wouldn't think it would be too hard...

I guess the only way I'm going to know is if he comes over here. I might call immigration and ask them what the steps are to get a visa to come here, just so I have some knowledge about it. Thanks.

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