My turkish guy..should alarm bells be ringing, am i letting my heart rule my head?

Submitted by Becca (European Union), Jul 25, 2007 at 19:38

Hay there hun, i read your post with a heavy heart as i kind of get the sinking feeling that that's what i have in store for me too..

I went to Turkey in May, and totally unexepectedly fell for this guy working in a popular bar in Gumbet, Turkey..A lot of the other guys in this bar were reknowned players but my guy seemed much quieter and genuine, i missed him so much when i got home but thought it best to forget about him..until he called me ..i have since gone back twice to Turkey, and have stupidly fell head over heels for this guy (im 27,and am shocked how soppy he's made me!)

I can totally relate to your situation and can easily understand how strongly you feel for your man..when i was last there someone dropped a large bottle of southern comfort on my foot, which resulted in me needing stitches and he was my knight in shining armour! he was really worried about me and raced me 2 miles on his back to medical centre! He has told me he loves me but that he doesnt want to leave Turkey,to live in London, and i am concerned that as i cant speak turkish i would be totally reliant on him if i move there..

He wants me to make a decision by time i return in 4 weeks, but today he rang and said hes really ill and cant miss work but has no money for tablets, that has made me kinda angry that why has he asked me when he knows loads of people out there? Do turkish people have to pay for medication or not out there?

After reading all these stories on here it really makes me wonder..i believe he's genuine but just need to be sure..I really hope things turn out good for you, especially as you've had such a hard year of it, only you can make the final decision though hun, but best of luck to you xxxxxxBecca xxx

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