some food for thought

Submitted by Annie (United States), Aug 6, 2007 at 08:08

I was reading a lot of your comments and I think some of this is common sense. My husband who is from Turkey has never asked me for money, and actually he would see this as a "blow" to his manhood. We have been married for 4 months and are very happy. This is not to say that we have not had disagreements, we have, and sometimes I find him to be a bit bossy ..... but guess what I tell him... and if he get's mad he can get glad in the same skin. I see the "macho" stuff but I am not putting up with it, never have, never will. He talks about equality so I remind him of this when he begins to go to far, lol.

An interesting thing though, the last few times he has talked to his father and mother in Turkey about us visiting after Christmas, both have told him to stay here and take care of his family, not to spend the money. He doesn't understand why, and he seems quite disturbed over this. His family seems very nice his mother has been especially supportive, she tells her son to be sure and "respect his wife" I don't know if his actions are normal, he helps with house work, and yes I mean dishes, and he bought me a christmas ornament for the tree this year. He told me that according to religion that heaven sits under the mother. (or something like this) but it wasn't disrespectful at all...

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