Good intentions to marry you? Is he really honest about his feelings?

Submitted by Habibti (United States), Aug 13, 2007 at 04:39

To all of you out there who are thinking to marry an arab man whom you haven't met yet ,or you met already and saw once or twice, and even if you have been knowing him for years or months and they seem to be the nicest and loveliest and the most honest and tender men on earth take this advice do not overlook...

Please be aware that no arab men with good intentions and appreciation and love for you will ever let you pay a penny for him or even yourself ! ... If you are already planning to travel to meet him and marry him if that is the agreement , pleaseeeeeeee take this advice...

If his intentions are good , let him pay for all your expenses , starting with the plane ticket and all the paper work you will have to do to bring them over ! .. If he doesn't have the money , but he really wants to marry you cause he loves you , he will get it somehow , if he doesn't even try and he is comfortable with you paying , TRUST ME ! he wants you for the papers or money and better life ...

please ladies LET THEM PAY , just as they would have to do with any arab woman they would want to marry , NO ARAB MEN will let any woman pay for him or herself if they really love them and respect them .... they think differently and have different culture and this is how it goes .... You are not an exception and he surely is not and your relationship is not if you have to pay a penny ...

Now if you just will visit their country with no wedding plans , then it's ok you pay for your ticket, but otherwise they will want to do it and actually they have to do it in their culture, so please leave the american thinking about i am independent and i pay for myself ... you can do that later after you marry him and after you are sure he will marry you for love , but at the moment that will be a proof of good will and honesty about his feeling towards you ... never think of it as taking advantage of him because you are marrying that guy and he is seeing you as his wife and this is how they are tought , if he behaves differently ... god be with you and expect to be fooled for the months or years to come

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