Looking for some advice

Submitted by Annie (United States), Aug 19, 2007 at 14:50

I am looking for some advice from you since you seem to be quite familiar with turkish culture. I am married to a turkish man who is studying for his phd at a university. we met and married inside of a year, yes I know this seems quick but I literally was swept off my feet. Since we have been married, he has mood swings there are times we talk about everything and then WOW I can't seem to breathe right! I find him quite controlling and he angers so quickly and then cannot let anything go. honestly I am sick of it. I am not sure what to do.

I have sold my business my home in order to focus on us and our marriage, lord knows it is difficult to maintain two households. Yes he does contribute but he really makes a lot of "I" statements. I find him quite frankly to be selfish. Not totally but when he gets angry the person he becomes I can't stand, and I have told him this. He throws things in my face that others do, ( has nothing to do with me) but acts like it's my fault, he get's on the phone with his family and who knows what there talking about all I know is that we have been married for over 4 months (his parents ask him to teach me turkey) and he has sat down once for approx. 1 hour 3 months ago. I have bought CD's and books , yet he was still telling his parents he was teaching me... he lies to them a lot.

And lately he bad mouths the US and that frankly is starting to anger me quite a bit. If turkey was so great why didnt' he stay there and get his education? No-one forced him here. What am I really asking hmmm, it;s like I am married to two different people, but I am begining to think that the "angry" person is who I am married to... my friends seem to think he runs in cycles of every 8 days they are begining not to care for him and that hurts me, but I understand it, based on the way he is acting, he has shown this side to them and they think I need to re-think this entire situation. I am just looking for answers...maybe you can help me.. I don't know..but thanks for your time.

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