in response to j

Submitted by anonymousamerican (United States), Aug 30, 2007 at 01:49

That's the million dollar question....I have been talking to a man also, for almost 4 months now, the first two months were absolute heaven...we talked on cam every night, phone calls, messenger, you name it. Our conversations were wonderful...and then it all changed.

It's been up-down ever since, I don't know how much longer I'll be able to stay in this relationship. He gets online when he feels like it, they're very short conversations, when they used to be around two hours long. But...he did call me the last three nights even though they were short conversations. But, last night he said he was tired, he would meet me online tonight and he never showed up.

I made the mistake of sending him some money. But the conversation never came up until about three months into the relationship. He's supposed to be saving it for a tourist visa, but he's out until all hours of the night, so I don't know if he's saving it or spending it.

All I can say is to pay attention to the little things, thats what I notice and I can tell when something isnt right. I hope he is being true to you. As I hope mine is...but I'm having major doubts. And dont' think anything about him offering to give you passwords, etc...its so easy to have more than one email account.

I'm sorry if I'm being negative, Its just from my own experience and others. There are good and true ones out there, but they're few and far between.

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