to bulent garip

Submitted by anonymousamerican (United States), Sep 14, 2007 at 16:12

Thank you for your advice and your information. I just actually sent the guy I had been talking to for four months a goodbye letter...second one. After I sent the last one, he sweet talked me back into talking to him. Basically he wanted to come here on a work visa so he could go to work right away, rather than a fiance or spousal visa. I questioned that right from the start.

Then came the money issue...in the end he ended up telling me it was going to cost him around $5,000 for the contract (or whatever he said) to get a work visa and he wanted me to help (of course), otherwise it would take a long time for him on his own, and he really wanted to be with me. Well we had been going back and forth for a little while with the work visa, fiance visa thing, he wouldn't give in the fiance or spousal visa, always had an argument about it. So, I called a US immigrant lawyer and he told me that is wrong..........he doesn't have to pay those fees, it's $320, and the company sponsors him. Well that's what I needed to know.

I don't know if he's going to try to reach me after he reads my email or if he'll try one last time to persuade me. I hope he'll move on. He has told me from the beginning that he doesn't practice Islam or any religion, so maybe that would account for the fact that he can so easily steal from women. I had sent him $300 but never sent any more.

And yeah, he told me all the time there wouldn't be any cultural differences, but I knew better than that, how could there not be?

Anyway, that's my story, one of hundreds here. Thanks for your comment.

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