To Sandra

Submitted by Christine (United States), Sep 20, 2007 at 02:03

Whew!! That's a toughy, because I don't want to sound blunt, only you can really be the judge here, b/c you know him on a personal level whereas I do not.

I will give you my own short story, I was once engaged to a man, at first the relationship was going strong, he told me how much he loved me etc etc etc, but after awhile, he stopped calling me as regular, and to make matters worse, he moved out of state (which I knew that early on that he would be going away to school, or so he told me, (he was a lying, sneaky snake in the grass).

well his words of love didn't line up with his actions, and after being engaged for about a yr (we had a on/off again relationship) he told me one day that "I shouldn't expect him to come back and marry me after him being away for so long. needless to say I was hurt, and cried and cried. All I can say to you is, instead of listening to your mans words, pay attention to his ACTIONS, actions speak louder than any words of love he will/can tell you.

Anyway, back to me, yes i was HURT deeply, and for a long time, but after awhile, I saw it as a blessing in disguise, b/c I would be in pure hell misery had I married that jerk . Remember "rejection is God's protection" I do want to add, my ex would still call me periodically to tell me I was the best girlfriend he ever had, by then my emotions over him were OVER. In your case, if you are a really good woman, your man will probably eventually regret treating you the way that he is.

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