Advice to HELP

Submitted by A.Elsaid (United States), Sep 25, 2007 at 17:38

As a Christian with a Muslim husband I can identify with how you feel. Yes it is scary, and all the same thoughts went through my head too.

Traditionally Muslim families prefer for their children to marry (date), other Muslims. But isn't that true about any religion? Jewish people usually marry Jewish people, Catholic marry Catholic. But the key is how much he loves you. Regardless of how his mother feels it all comes down to how he feels for you. If he truly loves you then he will make his own decisions. It will be hard and may cause a conflict considering how close he is with his mother, but you have to decide whether or not it is worth the fight. I say it is. I love my husband more than anything in this world and he feels the same towards me no matter what his family may say.

His family wanted him to marry a Muslim woman but you can't help who you fall in love with. See how it goes and if you feel uncomfortable let him know. If he doesn't respond to how you feel then maybe you should rethink the relationship and where it is going. It all comes down to acceptance and respect, maybe his mother will suprise you.

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