Turkish Men. Advice

Submitted by Kerry (United Kingdom), Sep 26, 2007 at 17:16

I've recently come off my holiday to Turkey, which I went to with my sister who's very protective of me, and two friends. I had no intention of meeting anybody, I simply went to unwind and have a good holiday.

On our second night, we stopped off at a bar, and there was one waiter in particular who caught my eye. He was young and very good looking, he would walk by our table and 'throw a line' to fish me in, and his friend would joke around by 'cutting' the line.

Now I know some turkish men have been known to use women for green cards, and I really hope this guy I have met isn't like that, I hope he is one of the good ones.

Anyways, regardless my sister being so protective, she allowed us to go back to the bar three more times that week because it put a smile on my face, and of course I grew more fond of my gorgeous waiter who made it clear he was interested in me.

On our last night I felt that if I didn't act upon my feelings, I would regret it when I returned to England. So when my sister went to the toilets, I gave him my number and e-mail. Since I've come home, we've talked a few times via e-mail. Its hard to talk as much as we'd like, with him working those long hours until holiday season is over.

He has asked me if I miss Turkey and if I will return, I said of course and he implied I should return soon. He asked me if I liked Turkey or England, I told him Turkey was beautiful but England has my friends and family, he said he understood and that I was right. It was almost as like he was asking me if I'd ever move to Turkey and sounded a little disappointed when I said England was my home.

I didn't mean it as if I would never move away from England, I would if it ever came down to it. We're both young, just in our 20's.

He has mentioned nothing about visiting England, but did say he hoped we would be together one day and that whenever he speaks with me he feels very happy. It seems so silly and everyone I know like my family are pretty much against it, assuming he will use me for a green card.

I know not all turkish men are after that, and he doesn't come across as a slimey guy. He's very sweet, shy and I really can't stop thinking about him since I've come home.

I met a couple in Turkey, they owned a bar together, an english woman and a turkish man. That proves there not all bad and I really hope, after me and him talk a bit more, he'll prove everybody wrong and prove me right.

Does anybody have any advice they think I should have??

Thanks!

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