Not All men are the Same

Submitted by BE OPEN MINDED (United States), Sep 29, 2007 at 13:26

As Salam Aliykum,

First I would like to say that you shouldn't marry a man you dont trust. Reguardless of his home country. Every man has the ablity to lie or cheat you out of something. Before each of you started your relastionship you understood that these men where Muslim (alhamduillah) so why the shock when he has expectations. Just as when he started dating you he knew that you where chrisitan and he should have understood that you would not be willing to conform to his way of thinking.

We are adults with that said you should know that if there are RED FLAGS you should discuss them if they are still RED FLAGS you end all communication with that person. Simple! Stop dating people you are not really interested in. I have plenty of American Friends that have married Muslim men From difffernt contries guess what years later they are still married. And most of them are now muslim.

Not all men want to live in the England or the USA. Have you ever considered asking him if you could live in his country. Or asked him if he would file the papers on his own and if he gets them you can date or do whatever in your country. If he files the papers and is granted a visa if he stays with you I guess he was telling the truth. If not than you got your answer and he has his card. But keep in mind at some point he's going to want you to convert or he's going to want his children rasied muslim, if he is a practing muslim.

Dont date blindly learn the womens and the mens roles in Islam read about your rights as a wife and his as a husband. Be knowledgable about his culture and Islam. Its not like you see on TV a true practing muslim isn't mean or abusive he is loving and caring.

You have options no one is forcing you to walk down the to the Justice of the Peace. If you feel gulity or scared I would just end the relationship.

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