advice needed

Submitted by Tash (Australia), Oct 4, 2007 at 19:36

I have read many stories and comments on this forum about the reasons why marrying a muslim is not a good idea. My logic tells me that I would be stupid to continue this relationship but it hurts my heart to think of leaving him. He has been so good to me and I do not understand why he would try to draw me in and trap me when I've made it very clear to him that I am not a push over. I've told him that I will never be the sort of girl who would let a man walk all over me and treat me like rubbish and he seems to accept that, I also told him that he can never own me.

I am also afraid of leaving him because I am worried that he may hurt himself, he claims that when he was younger he suffered depression and was suicidal and now he says that I put life back into him. I have tried to discourage him saying these sorts of things because it makes me feel as if he is becoming dependent on me. We've only been together for about a month and he is also already talking about marriage and babies.

It's so hard to know what to do, I'm new to this whole relationship thing but I crave the love he so willingly gives yet I know that I am being naiive. I'm so confused and I can't help but think, what if he's different? But maybe you are right, after all you have been married to a muslim man for ten years.

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