Reply to Tash from Australia

Submitted by sara (United States), Oct 5, 2007 at 16:30

Hi Tash,

I just read your post about your relationship. There are so many red flags, I am concerned that you are not seeing them. If you wanted advice, here are the flags I see:

1. relationships with Muslims are generally difficult culturally and religiously. There are severe differences that you will encounter, perhaps less so at the beginning of the relationship, but they will come up down the road. This is reason enough to tread very very carefully (I would recommend running actually).

2. As if that was not enough, the fact that he is using suicide or threat of depression if you leave is the biggest red flag I can think of. You cannot get involved with someone who is blackmailing you emotionally! Very very bad. I know it makes you feel needed and special, but he would feel the same way about ANY other woman if he is needy. It is about him, not about you. DO NOT MISTAKE feeling needed for love. This is not love.

Do yourself a huge favor. Be strong, and leave this guy now. You will never regret it. Way too much trouble brewing for you. Don't be a victim of this kind of emotional blackmail, because that is all it is. healthy strong men do not let you think that you are the reason for their lives.

Be strong, and good luck.

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