Dear Kerry

Submitted by Lucy (United Kingdom), Oct 6, 2007 at 11:14

Hi Kerry,

I just wanted to say i have read your article and i am in exactly the same position as you.I thought i was going through this alone...but it seems we have the same problem?....

I have just returned from a holiday in Turkey, where i fell in love with a waiter who worked at the hotel i was staying in, we spent sometime together while i was out there and the day i left he told me he loved me and that he wants me to move to Turkey to live with him.As flattered as i was i couldnt leave my family in England so wouldnt consider moving out there.I told him this and asked him to move to England...he says he will but i am not sure if this will really ever happen as whenever i mention it to him when he is on webcam to me his face falls abit and he looks a little stressed.I understand it would be a very big thing for him to move here but if he loves me like he says he does im hoping he can commit to that.

I am also having problems with my family being totally againest me getting involved with him.The main reason is because they say if i married him i would have to convert to Muslim...i dont know if this is true but surely if he came to England to live with me it would be abit different regarding me changing religions?...i mean who would have to know?.....also people keep telling me that Turkish men treat their women badly...i understand some of them might but this guy doesnt seem the type, he's so shy and gentle, i cant imagine him being like that.

It would be great to hear back from you as i feel we are very much in the same position.

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