Reply to Carmel

Submitted by Joanne (United Kingdom), Nov 16, 2007 at 12:06

Hi Carmel

Its very difficult for an Egyptian man to leave the country. If you look on the british embassy in cairo's website this will give you the different ways for him to enter the country.

I wouldn't go over there to marry him. you really need to get to know this guy first face to face if only for the sake of your children. Egyptian men are very smooth with words not so disimiliar to an english man really.... If you were dating an english man you wouldn't marry him until you were 100% sure he was the one for you and how and what he would be like with your children.

I have dated a guy from egypt this year but I entered this relationship with an open mind and my eyes wide open. I wasn't looking for a relationship but just a bit of fun really. I appreciate the cultural differences and have read all the stories on here. I have friends in Egypt so when I went out to visit him I combined the two and I had a great time with him. He was always the one asking to marry me etc but I was very reserved with my answers and just said I would need to get to know him properly before I could give him any committement.

I so glad I went in with my eyes open, as a couple of weeks ago I received a call from another english girl saying she had got my number from his phone and she was seeing him.

So as you can imagine it was quiet a shock, she was willing to give up everything for him and move herself and her son to Egypt to be with him. She had given him money and paid for everything when she went to visit him.

Since then I have not called him but he his constantly trying to contact me telling me he loves me and things are different in Egypt and she mean't nothing to him. I feel really sorry for this woman as I believe she really fell for him, I was the lucky one and had a couple of fab holidays which he paid for and some great sex!!

What I would suggest if you are still hell bent on going through with this get him to apply for a tourist visa to start with, you will have to sponsor him which means you will support him whilst he his here and provide letter, bank statements, payslip, he will also need to be in work and will have to provide proof of this and also a letter from his employer to say he has work when he returns and proof of accommodation. The visa is about £60 and you can do it on line.

All I will say is good luck and if he is truly a good man you are very lucky xxx

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