Too Sad and Missing Him

Submitted by S (United States), Nov 24, 2007 at 09:51

After reading your comments, it occurred to me that you are not giving yourself the credit you deserve for being insightful and able to say "no".

Women have so much power but often times are reluctant to use it. Until I happened upon this website, I had no idea that western women were chatting with men from other countries on-line and actually accepting the abuse that I doubt seriously they would accept from western men.

Of course there are "good" and "bad" people in all religions, cultures, countries, etc. However, any man who asks a woman for money (sending him money, buying airline tickets, helping with immigration issues), without question lacks respect for self. Further, if a man or woman has no respect for self, there can be no respect for others. Marriage in some cultures is nothing more than a contract. "Love" is a word that is not used in many cultures. I strongly suspect that the men who profess their "love" on-line have learned that they can flim-flam western women with the word.

There is a great book entitled Culture Shock" by Orin Hargraves that provides insight into the Moroccan Culture. On page 74, the author notes that because of the way western women are portrayed in western films, Moroccan mens' perception is that western woman are "loose" and the men take advantage of this "alleged looseness". We western women have been taught to be "nice" and "kind" and often times we forget to draw a line in the sand that simply imparts the message that, yes we are nice, kind, generous people but we will not allow others to take advantage of us.

You have made the right decision. Stick to it and take care of yourself.

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