dont do it

Submitted by tara (Ireland), Dec 1, 2007 at 18:21

Hi

Hope you have not gone ahead with changing yourself for this man. I know what you're talking about, but go in with open eyes please.

I married a Algerian man and i though i was madly in love with him and i thought he felt the same. We were married for 4 yrs but believe me it felt like 30yrs.

The first year of the marraige was great, he said everything i wanted to hear , but then the hell started. I am not saying all muslim men are like this, but i have not heard a great deal off good ones. He put me though hell and back just by what he was saying to me. I ended up being depressed and crying ever night. I was not good enough to walk down the street with.

I am separated now for the last year because i could not take it anymore. I asked him not to do something and he totaly lost it .he hit me and do you know, he had it planned. Because a month before he hit me he got his Irish passport. Now i know he only married me for one thing.

You said that he said that he was not wanting a green card, he says that now but believe me i think he is. Please do not rush into anything. Email me if you wish and we can talk more.

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