Daughter involved with Israeli American

Submitted by Scared Mother (United States), Dec 10, 2007 at 17:02

My daughter has been seeing an young man that was born of a Morrocan father/American mother and raised in Israel. He is a christian. He has been living in America for four years when his mother sent the boys to America to live with her family till she and the sister came to america. Needless to say, we are very worried about the way he expects her to be. We have watched him separate her from her friends, from her church and now trying to separate her from us.

He says when she is his wife that he will take care of her and not let anyone run all over her as her family does. He will teach her to handle money by putting it in his bank account and will pay the bills. She will full control of the house and he will take care of everything else. He plans to send his father cash to buy property in Israel so that he can have a place to live when he visits there. He says he can not live there cause he left before serving in the military.

When we have family get togethers, he always has an excuse. Yesterday we had one and he was blasting the whole family for stuff -- saying we did not care enough for her, that her brother and me took advantage of her, that I as her mother never taught her anything about surviving. This coming from a young man who never finished high school and will not even consider getting his GED. My daughter is a college educated professional.

My question is -- has she been suckered into a relationship that will be a nightmare? In the 15 months that they have been dating, each time he did not get her to do his way, he broke up with her. They would end up back together. Last night was another break up. I am scared for my daughter. I hope this ends it.

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