He'll use it against you FOR EVER

Submitted by jennifer solis (United States), Dec 16, 2007 at 22:21

This guy is giving you a major guilt trip as a way to dominate you; he will forever hold it over you that he did you a "favor" by marrying you. He's got you right where he wants you, he will forever be able to make you feel low. You will never measure up because there is no way for you to change your past. It is a tactic many men use to keep their women suppressed, under their control, and un-happy.

Let me ask you a question: does he seem happiest when you are saddest? When you act meek, quiet?

NEVER, NEVER think that because this guy is obssessive, possessive of you that he loves you. He just knows he found someone he can make feel low, powerless, so he can feel powerful.

I was married to an abusive Latin-American. I recognize your guy's behavior. After we divorced, my ex said, "I should have killed you while I had the chance." Thank God we had no children.

Get going while the getting's good, and don't think about it, just do it.

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