TO SL

Submitted by S (United States), Dec 19, 2007 at 21:39

You are a very strong, wise lady! Let me tell you the best way to deal with a narcissistic personality. This type of person cannot be approached in a rational manner because he is not rational. For example, to threaten to kill you is a classic example. He thinks he can control you by threatening you. He has already tried to kill your ability to trust, and your self esteem, etc and now he thinks that by threatening your life, you will become afraid and do whatever he wants.

Simply do not communicate with him in any form. He will not get the message for a long time because he thinks he can control you. However, each day that you don't communicate with this sociopath will make you feel more in control of your life and your self esteem will begin to quickly improve. He probably has five or more other women that he is abusing and because he has been led to believe from the first day he came kicking into this world that men are far superior to women, he simply doesn't think any woman could possibly reject him. Here you are an intelligent, strong, insightful woman who will not allow herself to be mistreated.

You probably are the first woman this man has ever known who is brave enough to walk away. Just remember that we cannot make sense out of a nonsensical situation. Just take each day as it comes and reward yourself for having good common sense. Trust me, it is much better to be alone that to be involved with a man who emotionally abuses you and enjoys it. You are going to do very well and some day you will meet a good, sensitive man. In the meantime, take care of yourself.

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