For Sandie

Submitted by s (United States), Jan 6, 2008 at 21:27

Refrain from trying to convert this man to Christianity. It is important to remember that others don't change just because we want them to or think they should. "Love" is not a word in Muslim countries and I don't see why western women continue to think they are going to change these men.

If a man has been led to believe all his life that women are nothing more than property, don't expect him to change. Muslims are taught that Christians and persons of Jewish faith are the scrapings of the barrel. Read the history of Islam and you will see how the religion began and I think you just might be surprised. I am wondering how many years both you and he are.

I am wondering if perhaps you are quite a bit older. Many middle eastern men become involved with older women and as soon as they have gotten all the money they want or need, guess what happens? His mother finds him a good Muslim woman and he marries her. Do you know that most Muslim men are expected to marry by approximately 27 years and if they don't, neighbors, family and friends think something must be "wrong" with them.

Marriage is for one thing and one thing only - to procreate. If they marry a cousin (yes, consanguineous relationships are very common in the middle east), the family feels that it has been "strengthened". I wish you well but be very careful. Meeting a man on-line is in my opinion a recipe for total disaster regardless of his religion or culture.

I feel very sad that women allow themselves to get involved with such dispicable characters who profess to be "in love" when the word "love" isn't even used in their countries. I feel even sadder when I hear of some of the outcomes. The relationship may be blissful for a year or so but trust me, a change will come and the sweet, kind, wonderful man you thought he was shows his true character and personality. It is what it is and you can't change it.

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