moroccan men

Submitted by sash (Ireland), Jan 12, 2008 at 06:12

I'm an irish woman married to a moroccan.. I love my husband very much and we have 4 children, I give you a bit of advice... You can take the man out of morocco but you can't and won't take morocco out of the man. i lived with my husband in Spain and left to go home to Ireland to give birth to our daughter. My husbands family were rich, that is until i went over to meet his family.....

i left Ireland when our daughter was 6weeks old. What is well off in Ireland and america is not really the same in Morocco, A mountain of blankets, Pots and pans, a few sheep, goats and chickens running around the front garden is not my idea of rich but to a hell of a lot of moroccans it is. My in-laws are lovely, i love them all to bits and i think the feeling is mutual, but you can never be sure when communication is such a big barrier.

Anyway I'm nearly 32 now and i know that marriage is a struggle, sometimes even when married to your own race and religion. Don't consider marrying for looks. so what if he's good looking and so are you, who cares, Moroccan men arespoilt more so than our own, marriage changes them no matter what you think.

i know loads of girls in the same position. you'll be expected to have children once your married, are you ok with that?? If not, your marriage won't last. You say Your husband doesn't like other moroccans- mine too, until he's around them and then can't pull himself away from them, they say this so you don't think they're one of the ones that give moroccan people the bad name... he is moroccan just like your are american it's in your blood, it's u full stop. that's something you have to accept, so don't keep trying to tell people your lad is different, he's not, he is moroccan no matter what way you try to sugar coat him to people.

you're only setting yourself up for a big fall. It's you and only you that needs to accept and respect his religion and race nobody else just like it's up to him to respect you.

Also if you marry him, his marrying you with the intention that you will over time convert to islam, his family will expect you to aswell. I have not converted, but i will. my husband has given me a wonderful marriage so far and wonderful children, we've had our ups and downs but that,s normal, just for you don't jump in at the deep end, take it easy and maybe read books on moroccan cultures and islam try and understand him as a moroccan not as an american with a moroccan background..

I wish you all the best and i hope you have a wonderful life with your gorgeous moroccan,

take care

sash

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