Please help - In love with Jordanian man

Submitted by christina (Philippines), Jan 13, 2008 at 11:33

I met my jordanian boyfriend last year in Dubai. In the beginning i was hesistant, but it inter-racial relationships seemed pretty common here and muslims are all dating non-muslims too. Our relationship is great and i know everyone says this about their muslim guy, but he really is wonderful to me. I dont really know much about jordanian men, i later on found out that he was engaged 3 years ago to this girl in germany, she is arabic and finsihing university. i broke it with him when i found out he was still in touch with her, through email and texting.. and so is his family. he tells me that he is just stuck in this situation and is trying to get out of it and that he is not sure about marrying her.

I know the smart thing to do is to leave him and move on. but he is my first love and i gave my virginity to him, which i suppose should mean a lot to a muslim guy. i left him and I am back in my country, but i am helpless. he still calls me every day and yet doesnt promise me anything. I think i am hanging on to the hope that he will eventually get out of this and choose me. What i dont understand is why he had this relationship with me in the first place, and if he is not serious about me why wont he let it go?

Please help as i need other personal views on this matter.

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