update...a year and a half later

Submitted by Carol (United States), Jan 14, 2008 at 19:17

Iskra,

Thank you!!! Your beautiful comment encouraged me to re-read what I wrote in October 2006 because i had forgotten. Here's an update...

during our relationship, I started becoming the person who was compromising more and more as he was becoming more and more demanding. My fear of losing this man who would tell me daily he adores me, and he can't imagine his life w/o me and he would do anything for me was hypnotizing. However, I was not budging on my religious stance, thought i must admit i think i did get to a point where i did tell him the children could be muslim, but he didnt believe me when i said it.

The relationship finally ended in June of 2007, after I become a love sick, forlorn, weak girl. Not the strong female who wrote the article you read. He just left me, like i never existed, he took me out of his heart and mind cold turkey. I was devasted and even reached a lifetime low of begging him back. FOR WHAT!!! No man who would not at least meet me half way on all compromises deserves my tears!!!

Your comment came at a great time, i have moments where i do miss him, even though i know my life is much better w/o him. Re-reading my blog has again awakened me up to what is right and to WHAT I BECAME BLINDED TO BECAUSE I STAYED WITH HIM FOR ALMOST ANOTHER YEAR!!! I needed to re-read my blog to realize what the relationship to a muslim man did to me, and how it hypnotized me into almost giving up everything i believed in!!!

I have not totally let go, but i am dating again, and i just met a wonderful Syrian CHRISTIAN man, and we are getting along amazing. And you know the best part of it all, we pray together!!!! We understand the true love of JESUS CHRIST together and i really really know now that couples that pray together stay together too.

I sincerely hope more pple read my article, because after reading it again and being reminded of all that, i have found more courage...i didnt realize how much my old relationship sucked out of me and drained me until right now. I dont know who you are but I love you for your comment because you have just restored me back to normal, to being my strong self again...i am reminded by a perfect stranger of the person i once was. We all lose ourselves to men, but I suppose i am proof that we can find our way back home to our bodies and to our minds....both which are a gift from GOD!!!!

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