I am experiencing the same thing

Submitted by annie (United States), Jan 15, 2008 at 15:07

I just read your post, sadly enough I am experiencing the same thing 1 year into the marriage.

I too am educated and a self made woman. He spoke of equality and he was not like other "muslims" he is from Turkey. All I have found is that he is irresponsible, lies, sneaky, and a bully. He with holds affections as some sort of "sick" game he plays. Well I am quite devastated.

Yes he went from the loving boyfriend to a selfish jerk. I know that sounds highly immature but I just can not think of another phrase to use that is printable. I constantly am dealing with his mood swings, and reckless regard for my feelings. I even told him I wanted a Divorce, then it is " I'm sorry" blah blah blah.

I don't know why he wanted to marry me. I certainly did not want this, but was persuaded by him that it would be great. I should have trusted my instincts. He has even gone so far as to tell me what I am allowed to talk about on the phone with my friends and family, he tries to be quite controlling. I am now (since I sold my home last summer) trying to find a place where I can start new, away from him and all his mind games.

Ladies, if you read this, I too believed that my husband was not like this, I too defended him even on this site, and I have learned a painful lesson. at this time I would appreciate any moral support I could get, I live in a city wher I know very few people (he has kept it this way) I feel very isolated. However I am trying to keep m wits about me and stay focused on leaving.

God Bless

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