Us American women that marry Mulim men from other countries...

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Jan 19, 2008 at 18:43

Ladies, I have married an Algerian Muslim man. I am sooo happy! BUT the numbers don't lie ladies...the chances that he only married me, a full figured, non-white lady, w/ no $$ , points in only one direction...he married me for green card. That's what got me to this site...I was searching for answers...how can someone sooo handsome AND a doctor want me when no one HERE does!! So, no matter HOW loving he is now, there r many red flags that point to a sad future... I HAVE decided to be happy for the next 2 years. And then deal w/ the outcome.

The red flags ARE: -insist you MUST come to his country as it is virtually impossible for them to leave w/o u physically there. Lest they have loads of cash and they don't.-Most/all , have "cousin" that they r truly wanting to marry but they just don't have enough status/$$-ticket to America is their only chance of marrying who the FAMILY wants them to marry.They really, really, assume us Americans r rich w/money! and will have no problem asking you for some! -Wants to marry you QUICKLY -Refuses to have children w/u-NEVER talks about future life w/you {buying home, his career goals,etc}-rarely wants to be around your family for fear that they will influence you or spot something that u have missed in his behaviour

-if he is YOUNGER than u {it is fact they purposely choose OLDER woman as joke amongst their friends} the ideal woman is someone YOUNGER in Muslim society...NEVER older. A man is judged on how many children he fathers. We choose them because they r exotic. We THINK we will become some type of desert Queens...Remember they spend sooo much time on internet it's mind boggling....they do not work like we do in America...they have LOT'S of resting time to develop suave skills.-if they discuss sexually explicit talk w/you they r not interested as a truly good Muslim would never speak like that to his wife.

I will NEVER understand why/how they can drop us JUST LIKE THAT!! but they do/they will ladies. We need to ask ourselves y we r chatting w/these men. Often we convert thinking that will please them...but it's only because if they turn one person to Islam ALL of their sins r washed away on day of judgement.

In closing be happy...if you want to travel to these countries then go! But often , too often, when the green card is in the post box, they will be on their cell phones talking to whoever in Arabic about when they r coming "home". I suggest...Put something away for your future...hopefully you will never need it! Enjoy all the pleasure that being w/someone can bring to you. Keep yourself up in appearance. But don't you dare fall apart when you look at the picture YOU made in the harsh sunlight.

My friend , who I refused to believe, used to always say IT IS THE REALITY of it all. And everything he said has come true. So listen to me if u like...but I will ALWAYS be here to offer my experience...and to discuss the stuff that is too hard to put down. I KNOW that sinking feeling when u realize you've been 'HAD'.

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