Thanx for sharing...

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Jan 19, 2008 at 19:21

Dear, we understand how you feel...I've been married for 5 months now..to a REAL charmer. Luckily mine is GREAT w/ family but refuses to meet my friends. Just this week I wanted to invite my bff male friend who is religious , married man. My husband went through the roof!! I could not believe! He told me I should NEVER invite anyone w/o discussing it first.

Now my sweet friend will assume we r crazy for inviting, then uninviting him. I said well first it's not "crazy" to change our mind. He's right I guess I should have checked w/him first but this guy was supposed to be BEST MAN at our wedding! He offered to help my husband move his furniture into our apartment!! So I can't figure that "episode" out.

Sadly dear, it sounds like your husband is just waiting for the 2 year period when he will receive his green card. Not quite establishing himself w/in your community, life, hence the disrespect to others in your circle of life. The BEST thing for you is to keep having a life. U signed "married & alone" because u have no life outside the marriage...Get one!! you're in it because SOMETHING is good. And you know what I am talking about . Companionship! So enjoy the aspect of not eating alone...having a warm body next to you etc...keep up your intimate life...become a sexier individual. Sounds to me you are financially independent...i.e. he doesn't truly need to support the household. So concentrate on being more of a woman. Check out the women in his CULTURE and groom yourself MORE like them. That's probably what he's attracted to anyway. Just take it easy and enjoy being MRS. ----.

All the best. Hugs from Farrah

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