In love with a Jordanian guy

Submitted by Abby Roze (United States), Jan 19, 2008 at 22:47

Hi Christina,

I read your post and my heart goes out to you. This guy that you lost your virginity to, it sounds as if he is sincere about caring for you. But has he told you that he loves you? This is the key point.
This girl that he is engaged to seems to be involved with his family and this means that it is a serious matter. The Muslim religion takes these marriage matters seriously. I don't know how he will get out of it.

Has he asked to come to you? Has he asked for you to come to him? Did he beg you not to go when you left him? What does he say when he sends email and texts? Do you feel in your heart of hearts that he means what he says, or do you get that little warning signal saying, "forget this!"?

You know, polygamy has been legal in the Muslim religion for some time now. Its a bit more strict now for a Muslim man to have more than one wife, but it's possible if his other wife or wives agree with it. These are things to ask him and have a heart to heart talk with this man.
You can figure this all out if you talk to him and ask him questions even if you dread to hear the answer. If you don't, you will be caught in this trap and you may try even harder to win him if you begin to feel rejected, and it may turn into a competition between you and the other girl.
And there is no guarantee like you said, that he will leave her. Find out for sure by asking questions. Write all you want to say on a piece of paper and prepare to face him with it. He owes you at least that much since he seemed to think that you owed him your virginity.

Best to you
Abby

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