ring

Submitted by mis (United Kingdom), Jan 20, 2008 at 12:15

I have read a few of these comments about the ring. For me the fact that its gold and hes still wearing it is something a bit strange...unless hes not overly religious. My now husband got me an engagement ring, but said i wasnt to buy him one as its not a tradition for him to wear one untill he was married. He took me to a few ring shops untill I found the perfect one. He paid in full. When it came to wedding rings he paid for them both. As he did with my dresses henna party and jewellery. I also had a dowery which i chose what went in it. This is some info on some of what ive talked about

The Sadaq:

The Sadaq or Mahr (dower) is a required marriage gift given by the groom to the bride. It represents his commitment to take care of all the family expenses including her personal needs… "And give women their dower as a free gift." (surah 4 verse 4)

Sadaq may be money or in kind, but it should be specified in its kind and quantity. It may be paid in full at the time of the marriage contract, or postposed until a definite or indefinite date in the future. That which is deferred becomes due upon divorce. The value of Sadaq can be anything from $1 upward (and must be agreed upon by both parties).

I have also signed agrements about what would happen if we were ever to divorce or one of us were to die. I know its not very romantic but you never know what will happen in 20 years.

I hope some of this is helpfull to someone

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