May I ask

Submitted by Abby Roze (United States), Jan 20, 2008 at 21:51

Hi Farrah,

I read your post and thank you for your advice. In your post, you said you are really happy. But I'm confused because you feel in your heart that this man will not want you for much longer. Is he here in the states?

I am about to marry a Muslim man who I met on a dating site. I have known him for almost a year. And yes, he is much younger than I am and even though we have discussed it at length, he says that age is only a number that it is essential what is in the heart and mind and soul of a person.

You see, we didn't didn't have a serious relationship at the start. It was about three months later that we fell in love. He didn't talk about marriage until two months after this. But I think it was induced by my ex boyfriend asking me to marry him when he found out about my Muslim man. I think this prompted the question.

My guy lives in Morocco. I plan to visit him in mid April where we will plan the details. From what I have found out online and by others in weblogs, it is almost impossible for a Moroccan man to get a visa to come to America. This by the way, is not one of his ambitions but is going to try to get a visa and is willing to come here.

Maybe your man finds you very attractive? Maybe he truly loves you? Is he older than you or younger? How long did you know him before you were married? Did you meet his family? It is possible that he truly wants to be with you for life. What makes you think this man will leave you or has used you? Can you explain about the green card? Does it come to you or him? Can you tell me these details please?

Thank you for your advice
Abby

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