warning signs of marriage fraud

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jan 20, 2008 at 22:19

I am an expert on marriage fraud, having been with the devil from Turkey. so here's some advice: some things are obvious signs but most are hidden and you can't see it coming, so you need time to know them and how they react when they don't get what they are after. Whether or not you meet online, they move extremely fast to declare their love. They may propose marriage before you have even met !!

Is there a big age difference ? Muslims marry their own kind usually and a prospective bride must be from that country, muslim and must be able to have children. You are an infidel - a dog - for them so you are so disposable and you don't know this til it happens to you. The whole family may be in on the plan to get their son to a first world country so they will welcome you like a long lost daughter but you will never know that there is possibly a turkish/muslim woman waiting to marry their son as soon as he gets that visa or your money. NEVER let him see your bank card number. NEVER let him know personal identity information he can use. And if you do marry him, check to see that he changes the marital status on his ID from single to married.

Make sure he puts both your names on the leases and other papers. Mine did not put my name as tenant but listed me as garantor and then told court we never lived together so that he could get a divorce easily by saying he paid me to get him a visa. The day we married he had already planned the divorce and lined up witnesses !!!!!!!!!! If you are wealthy be especially cautious. You may be in danger. This all sounds paranoid but it happened to me.

Make sure you know the language so you can get help if he becomes violent and if he does, let him know that your embassy is watching out for you and then make your escape if you are in hos country. That was my marriage to a Turk. And i didn't have a clue - he was soooo sweet and loving. But the little questions about small odd things were swept under the rug by me. Take care.

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