for everyone who is falling in love with a muslim man

Submitted by christina (Philippines), Jan 21, 2008 at 10:19

Dear Abby,

I find it amazing how most of the women in this site seems well educated. I for one got my degree, my career was on the rise... and i'm quite sure i'm just like the rest of you; young, attractive and self-driven. I think the quintessential reason we are all here despite these seemingly great attributes, is because bottom line is - when we love, we love with our hearts.

There is no logic, no reasoning, that not even religion nor cultural differences can abstain. I know i'm not an isolated case, and i hate the fact that my story seems like such a cliche'. It pisses me to the core how one man can get me into such an emotional wreck, i had to quit my job and reconstruct my life all together. And how i could not make myself hate this man, for everything we had was good.

Like i said, i'm a smart girl. I dont even know why i felt the urge to write on this blog when i know the answers all along. He doesn't say he loves me, he doesn't make any promises or future commitment of any sort. We met in Hong Kong to celebrate the New Year together, but i still i didnt get the answers i needed. I no longer deny seeing the obvious for i know now that it doesnt change the truth. He kissed me goodbye in the airport and has been calling me daily since. I have given him the exit by leaving the country but I wonder why he still won't let go... and i don't have the strength to cut the string myself.

I'm hopeless. I have surrendered myself completely to this man, and i'm having a hard time to get myself back. When I lay awake at night, everything in me says i should forget this and move on. I am starting to accept the fact that we don't have a future together, but stil i fear that my heart will always be with him.

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