Abby, honey ask me ANYTHING

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Jan 21, 2008 at 20:11

Abbey-

My husband was here when we met on line at Shaadi.com. It is an Indian dating site but we both are NOT Indian. I purposely searched for those in or near my town only because of all the heartbreak long distance relations can cause.

We met in 2006 Sept right before Ramadaan. My husband is my age 41, but very religious. NO girlfriends allowed, truly no being alone together which I thought was charming. He is very handsome, but he lived in another state and his self esteem was low because of his restaraunt job. He is doctor in his home country. And I just learned WHERE he works last week because I have to know for USCIS interview that is coming up!!

We clicked BUT he just wasn't forthcoming about his past luvs/life/ etc...so I forgot about him...Dated lot's of others from the site...fell madly in love w/Pakistani who point blank told me I was too fat right before the wedding date, BUT after I had told family of upcoming marriage!! I was devastated to say the least...

Anyway, July 2007 I found my husbands # and gave him a call to let him know I"m single again, hope he is too etc...he was here 2 days later. Asked me to marry that night. Of course I looked fabulous and was extremely flattered. Married by the end of August. Had no idea he had no green card...said he wanted to be able to stay here because I don't want to move to his country and live do I?? So we filed papers...and hired a lawyer... min $3,500 for filing fees & lawyer cost.

What is happening in your case is your fiancee wants you to come there...he will convince you to marry there , then you come back to US and file for him to come as family. They try to get you to stay there and file so his file is pushed ahead & he leaves w/you. They assume all Americans are rich and soon they will begin to ask you for $$.

Anyway, when you get back here...he cannot work til he gets authorization card takes about 6wks + because when you file...you claim U can afford to support him! Then when he is able to work he will expect YOU to ask friends & family for positions because that is how jobs are gotten in those lands...you must know someone ...etc. Going on an interview is NOT happening.

One thing is clear ,your food MUST BE HALAAL. It is your duty to read labels and shop in Muslim grocers. Our American food is seasoned w/lots of pork by products that we just don't realize...so to be extra cautious buy Kosher when in doubt! Hopefully your man does not drink alcohol...they're not supposed to, but Morrocaans are known for this... known for beating their wives and leaving them in the house whilst they go & play. They're known for being flashy...so be warned... I suggest you find one that is here...there are plenty.

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