Farrah

Submitted by Lisa Moore (United States), Jan 23, 2008 at 10:46

I em engaged to a muslim man from egypt. We have been together for over a year. I live here in the united states. We have agreed that I will come to egypt and marry him after he has some money in the bank where he is at.

According to laws, there must be enough money to support him until he can have authorization to work in the united states. It is very hard for an egyptian man to come to the united states, the only way is through marriage or student visa. One of my fiance's friends has been in egypt 3 years since marrying his american wife. She has come to egypt 2 times during their 3 year marriage. He is still not with her.

Despite how hard things are with paperwork and money, my fiance and I still want to be together. I have put him through everything I can possibly think of to get him to tell me that he just wants a green card and that things will change once we are married and that he will give all our money to his family, everything that I hear Muslim men do to american woman I have told him he would do that to me.

It's hard for me to trust any man since my divorce. He is patient with me and has never lied to me. I am christian and it's hard for me to believe that I am in love with him, but, I really believe I am. I have made more sacrifices than he has due to my religion. He knows how I feel about that. He and I have agreen on everything as far as religion.

I have 3 children from my first marriage. It is understood that he will never teach them Muslim and he has agreen to never try to convert us. We have a paper drawn up for pre marital agreement. If we do have children, they must be muslim. I do not agree. So, he said we will not have kids. That is hard for me cause I never want to do that to someone who has never had a child. He doesn't mind not having kids, because he says my kids will become his kids through marriage and that is fine with him.

I have problems believing him because of what I read from other women. But, he is not rich, he does not gain anything by coming to the united states. He can make better money there coz he has a trade. If he came here, he would have to start over. I believe him only because I dig for lies. I want to make sure he is honest in all things before I marry him. It's sad because I should love him and believe him, but the world we live in now, it's hard to do that. It's a sin for me to marry him, although, I know God will forgive me for my rebellion. I still pray for God's will for our life together.

I hope some of this helped you. It's so hard when you love someone. It confuses things between real and phony. I have every reason to trust him, but, it's something that is a process for me.

Lisa

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